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The full story of the Red Cross Pearls has never been told before. Using research from the Red Cross and Christie’s archives, and the extensive contemporary coverage of the Pearl Appeal in The Times, the Daily Mail, The Sketch, the Illustrated London News, The Queen and provincial newspapers, this book pieces together its inspiring story. Drawing on diaries, journals and letters of the people who gave pearls, it explores the emotions and experiences that motivated so many women to donate.
Through these contemporary records, we are able to enter the mindset of some of the women going through this tragedy. We get an insight into the complex emotions of Letty Elcho and Violet Astor, the young widows who had lost their soulmates, and Mary Wemyss and Ettie Desborough, the mothers who had to come to terms with the deaths of two of their sons. Reading how they reacted is often a heart-breaking experience and, for our generation, with its different attitudes to duty, faith and patriotism, it is sometimes hard to understand. It shows that their individual responses were as unique as each pearl and even women who were the closest friends reacted in very different ways. Whether it was the Duchess of Rutland doing everything in her power to prevent her son going to war or Ettie Desborough glorifying the sacrifice of her sons, what becomes clear is that they did what they needed to survive. Before judging them, we should consider what we would do if we were faced with a similar situation.
Remembering the sacrifices made by the women who donated pearls is deeply moving. The Red Cross Pearls are a tribute to them as much as to their men. Ultimately, their generosity reflected their faith in a selfless love which could transcend tragedy. As The Times wrote:
And so one is brought back in the end to look with reverence, upon the heart of this gift of pearls […] It is the memories and the tears of mothers, wives and lovers. Of these thousands of pearls not one is merely a pearl. It is a proud memory of one who proudly died for freedom; it is a tear shed in secret over an irreparable loss; a shining tribute to a man or to a band of men […] who gave their all to win all for those whom they loved.5
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TEARS TRANSFORMEDTO PEARLS
Last night – we went off to bed about 11.30 and no one spoke of sitting up to see the New Year in and poor 1917 slunk away in silence, shame and sorrow. I kept the window open and I heard bells ringing in my ears and fell sadly asleep, feeling too dull and apathetic to cry.1
These were the despondent words written by Mary, Countess of Wemyss in her red leather diary on New Year’s Day, 1918. She was not alone in her depression – after three and a half long years of fighting, Britain was war-weary. Mary, and thousands of women like her, had waved off their loved ones to fight for king and country, to see many of them never return, slaughtered in the fields of Flanders, on the cliffs of Gallipoli or in the deserts of the Middle East. One loss followed another so relentlessly that families were left dazed. So many tears had been shed that the bereaved were almost beyond crying.
As well as the emotional exhaustion, there were practical problems that added to the demoralising atmosphere in Britain. With shortages of supplies, exacerbated by the heavy demands over Christmas when large numbers of soldiers had come home on leave, food became a national obsession.2 The winter of 1917–18 was the winter of the queue; at first this affected the working class most, but soon middle-class women who could no longer get servants joined them. In freezing weather, sometimes standing in inches of thick snow, they spent hours in the long lines that snaked outside the shops where small amounts of tea, sugar, margarine or meat were still available.3 In many parts of the country there was no butter or margarine to be had; butchers had to close for several days a week because they had no meat, while fish and chip shops shut because they had run out of fat.4 Concerned by the appearance of food queues, from January 1918 the government issued ration cards and began to build up a system of regional and local food distribution centres.5 With no end to the war in sight, morale was at such low ebb that the army feared people at home would fail them by losing heart to see the war through to victory.6
In the first months of 1918 Britain’s prospects of winning the war had never looked bleaker. Once Russia withdrew from the war, following the Bolshevik Revolution, the Germans were able to concentrate their best troops on the Western Front. The British forces were in a poor state to fight back because, after the casualties of the previous year, their army was dangerously under strength. The master of German strategy, General Erich Ludendorff, knew that he had a brief window of opportunity during which his enemies were weak; his aim was to defeat Britain and France quickly before the Americans arrived in large numbers to support the Allies.7 For civilians there was no escape from thinking about the war. The Germans’ intensive night-bombing of London and the south-east added a new dimension of terror at home. For many women, it was only the desire to find some meaning in their losses that made them continue to stand firm.8
Nearly every family had been touched by bereavement; if they had not suffered it personally they had friends who had lost a loved one. It was clear that a deep well of grief existed, which needed to be expressed. In an age of stoicism there was no room for hysteria, instead the women of the country needed a dignified way to remember their loss with pride. These patriotic and practical women wanted to help the soldiers who were still fighting. Hospitals at home and abroad needed staff and equipment to give the wounded the best chance of survival, while those who had been maimed in the conflict deserved the highest quality of care once they returned home.
The British Red Cross was at the heart of providing this vital support. Following the outbreak of the war, the Red Cross had formed the Joint War Committee with the Order of St John of Jerusalem. The two organisations worked together and pooled their fundraising activities and resources for the duration of the war.9 However, by 1918 they needed £3 million a year – or £10,000 a day – to keep going.10 Women across the country had already given so much to the cause; they had run flag days, held bazaars, put on concerts and donated whatever they could afford. Yet their generosity was not exhausted and, when provided with an innovative idea that recognised the extent of their sacrifice, they were ready to give again.
It was at this critical moment that Mary (known as Molly) Northcliffe, wife of the press baron Alfred Harmsworth, Lord Northcliffe, stepped in with the perfect plan to reinvigorate the women of Britain and the Empire. She would ask them to give a pearl from their precious necklaces to make a new string of pearls, which would be sold in aid of the British Red Cross. Each jewel would represent a life changed forever by the war. The appeal was very much a reflection of Molly Northcliffe, and without her inspirational leadership it would not have become such a resounding success.
By 1918, Lady Northcliffe was at the peak of her powers. In her late forties and recently made Dame Grand Cross of the Order of the British Empire for her charitable work during the war, on 9 January 1918 a full-page photograph of her graced The Sketch. Looking like the modern incarnation of Britannia, her steady gaze engaged readers. Fashionably dressed in a toque and velvet opera coat, with her hands placed on her hips opening her coat to reveal a cascade of pearls, she exuded confidence. Looking poised and uncompromising, she embodied all the women who had found a new sense of purpose through their war work. Recognising their role, in the summer of 1917 the government had introduced this new order of chivalry. The Order of the British Empire (OBE) was used to honour civilians for their contribution to the war. It was soon known as ‘Democracy’s Own Order’, reflecting just how much women had done for their country, it was the first order of chivalry to admit them on equal terms with men.11
However, although the majority of new OBEs had shown real commitment to the war effort or bravery – for instance, saving the lives of fellow workers in munitions factory fires – the new honour soon gained a bad reputation. The public impression was that it was a tawdry bauble awarded to society hostesses, time-servers and war profiteers for trivial acts. It became known as the ‘Order of the Bad Egg’, ‘Other Bugg
ers’ Efforts’ or the ‘Order of Bloody Everybody’.12 Reflecting this critical perception, in a column in Tatler, ‘Eve’ commented on the unprecedented number of women honoured in the recent list. Expressing ambivalence to the new awards, in her usual tongue-in-cheek tone, ‘Eve’ explained that ‘our grandmothers’ would have fainted with surprise to see as many women as men in the honours list, particularly as the majority of them were ‘honoured’ for doing jobs which were once seen as exclusively masculine. The columnist joked that if there were more lists like this ‘the chief distinction, if not honour, will be not to have letters after your name’. She added, ‘I’ve already heard of one Wicked Woman who appends DNWW to her well-known name – which, being interpreted, means Done No War Work.’13
Lady Northcliffe was too self-assured to be put down by such mocking comments. The Sketch picture of her shows a woman ready to launch the most ambitious charitable campaign of her career. Molly had the experience, connections and imagination to make the appeal take off. After founding a newspaper empire which, from 1908, included the establishment’s ‘Thunderer’, The Times, as well as the Daily Mail, her husband, Lord Northcliffe, was one of the richest and most influential men in British life. At the beginning of the war Northcliffe controlled four out of every ten morning newspapers.14 Politicians feared and courted him, knowing that his newspapers could help to make or break governments.
Molly had been a true partner in her husband’s meteoric rise. In the Pearl Appeal, as in their life together, she drew on her husband’s considerable resources while distancing herself from his sometimes socially embarrassing vendettas. In her Red Cross campaign, Molly used the skills she had honed while advancing her husband’s career.
When they married in 1888, Alfred and Molly had little money but endless dreams set out in the groom’s ‘Schemo Magnifico’, a brown paper folder containing his ideas for building a newspaper empire. With no inherited money to rely on, as he was the son of an impoverished barrister while she was the daughter of a West Indies sugar importer, the young couple were determined to make their own fortune. On their wedding day, Alfred borrowed the money from a friend to pay for the engagement ring and appeared at the church with a ‘dummy’ copy of his planned penny weekly, Answers to Correspondents, sticking out of his jacket pocket. His domineering mother predicted that the couple would have many children and no money – she could not have been more wrong.
Later, Lord Northcliffe attributed much of his success to his wife’s sure judgement and quick brain. She knew what made a story that would appeal to women, and she used this knowledge first in her husband’s newspapers and then in the pearl campaign. In the first years of their marriage, she worked side by side with Alfred in the little front room of their terraced house in Pandora Road, West Hampstead, writing articles and collecting interesting material from American newspapers for Answers to Correspondents. Across the floor were strewn newspaper clippings, papers, scissors and paste, while proofs were draped over the armchairs. Both husband and wife looked back on this time as a period of great happiness, as they were working together with a common purpose.
Molly’s influence was important again when Alfred founded the Daily Mail in 1896. Wanting to attract women readers whose interests had previously been largely ignored by the press, he made it the first newspaper with a dedicated women’s page, known as the ‘Women’s Realm’. Molly gave him hints about the type of stories which would interest women readers. No doubt thinking of his socially aspirational wife, when giving advice to his young colleague, Tom Clarke, Alfred explained that women readers were most interested in other people, their failures and successes, their joys and sorrows and their peccadilloes. He told him that the more aristocratic names he got in the paper the better, because the public was ‘more interested in duchesses than servant girls […]. Everyone likes reading about people in better circumstances than his or her own.’15 Two decades later, Lady Northcliffe applied the same principles to reach the same female audience with the Pearl Appeal; it combined the glamour of the aristocracy humanised by the pathos of the war.
Unlike many of the women who were to donate pearls, Molly had not lost a son in the war. Instead, the great sadness in her life was to be childless. Both husband and wife had longed for children, and when Molly did not conceive naturally, the most skilled doctors in England and on the Continent were consulted, but none could find a medical explanation. In April 1893 Molly underwent surgery but it was unsuccessful. Their childlessness remained a permanent disappointment to them both.
Alfred did have illegitimate children, but he never had the heir he could publicly acknowledge to the world. When sympathy was offered, Alfred would brush it aside, simply saying that in every life ‘there is always a crumpled rose leaf’.16 Described as boyish, he had a natural affinity with children and built a strong relationship with his many nieces, nephews and godchildren. He kept a cupboard of toys in his newspaper office and would sit on the floor playing with his young guests on their regular visits. He also gave generous gifts to employees for their children.
Molly’s unhappiness was reflected in her poor health. In the early years of their marriage she suffered from double pneumonia which affected her heart. The psychological effect of infertility on her mood is plain to see in a photograph taken at this time. While Alfred dominates the photo, staring into the distance with one foot resting on a stone mounting block, one hand on his hip, the other proprietorially placed on Molly’s shoulder, she looks desperate. Her eyes are downcast, her shoulders hunched, her whole demeanour is as fragile as the delicate lace on her cream blouse.
However, being fundamentally feisty, Molly did not sit back and wallow in self-pity for long; instead, she carved a new and independent life for herself. Called by her husband ‘my little lion-heart’, she was known for her fearlessness. She would ride the most spirited horses, drive as fast as possible in early motorcars and was one of the first women to go up in an aeroplane.17 When her husband started having affairs, she also took lovers, including one of Alfred’s most trusted colleagues, Reggie Nicholson.
Educated at Charterhouse, Reggie first helped to run the Northcliffes’ household finances, but later held important newspaper posts. He often travelled abroad with the couple; his easy charm and tact made him invaluable to them both. It seems that Lord Northcliffe knew of the affair and accepted it because he valued and respected his wife too much to divorce her. Although he became increasingly irritable and volatile in private, he remained courtly in his outward devotion to her. Resting on an easel in his office at Carmelite House was a regal portrait of Molly surrounded by flowers. In his diaries, he called her ‘the little wife’, ‘wifie’ and ‘wifelet’, but while the diminutives suited her ‘dainty’ physique, he knew that she was no little woman, instead she was his equal.18
Importantly for Molly, Alfred gave her a generous allowance to fund her opulent lifestyle. In return, she tolerated his infidelities and publicly played the role of a loyal wife to perfection. While he spent time with his mistress Kathleen Wrohan and their three illegitimate children at Elmwood, his country house at Broadstairs in Kent, Molly stayed for extended periods in their London town house or at Sutton Place, a Tudor mansion near Guildford. Sutton Place became the ideal show home for Molly to demonstrate her impeccable taste and skill as a society hostess. Lavishly spending her husband’s growing fortune, she made sure that every aspect of the house was finished to her exacting standards. Sutton Place was described rhapsodically in The Sketch as a place where guests could wander in the famous rose gardens cultivated by Lady Northcliffe, or walk by the stream where ‘yellow and blue lilies gaze at themselves’ and which was ‘so full of charm and serenity that Ophelia would have changed her resolve when nearing it’.19 For the more energetic there were tennis courts and the first private golf course in England to enjoy. The less sporty could relax in the many nooks of the historic house or view relics of Lord Northcliffe’s hero, Napoleon, in the panelled gallery.
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contacts Molly made helped to make the Pearl Appeal one of the most fashionable fundraising campaigns of the war. At their house parties, the Northcliffes entertained an eclectic mix of politicians, journalists, society figures, actors and actresses from Britain and abroad. While Molly was known for her fascination with the aristocracy, Alfred was not motivated by snobbery so much as the desire to make contact with other people of exceptional achievement. As a newspaper tycoon, he wanted to know exactly what was going on in the world. During dinners he would listen attentively to what was said but often retired early to bed, leaving his wife to entertain their guests. While Alfred was never totally at ease in social settings, Molly moved with grace to the heart of pre-war society. She was able to charm not only her husband’s friends but also his enemies.
Although Northcliffe always remained an outsider, never quite accepted by the landed aristocracy, he could not be ignored by the ruling elite. His mass-market newspapers reflected the growth of democracy. In exchange for his services to the Conservative Party, Alfred was made a baronet in 1904, and a year later he became the youngest peer ever created. The culmination of his career came just months before the launch of the Pearl Appeal in November 1917 when David Lloyd George made him a viscount. A social mountaineer, Molly relished each elevation and saw it as her triumph as much as his. When Alfred became a baronet, she congratulated him, adding that her happiest thought was that they began life together and she had been with him through all the years of hard work that had earned him his distinction and fortune so young.